January 2007

Friends of mine are in the process of divorcing. I find it very sad, especially in light of my parents’ impending divorce. I know there are many factors that go into such a drastic decision. For the most part, I tend to think that a dose (a heavy dose) of charity is what’s needed to fix the problems. (Believe me, I know it’s not an instant cure.)

But how much is too much? My friends were married in the temple. Something has happened that has changed one of them drastically. Beliefs have changed or been lost. Personality has changed to the point where the other spouse says that their spouse is a completely different person.

The person you married made certain promises but now has become another person, one who doesn’t care about those promises. Does that mean the marriage is nullified?

The Valiant Femmes are femmes no more. Or, more correctly, not only femmes any more. I suppose it’s only to be expected in a small, transient ward like mine but still I find myself caught a little flatfooted and a little sad. Lynette’s family will be moving out of our ward in spring and Natalie will be joining Young Women’s this year. This leaves only Anna in the class. The teacher for the boy’s class has moved away. So we have a teacher without a class and a class without a teacher. I don’t think you need to have a degree in economics to figure out the same thing the Primary Presidency did.

So, starting in the New Year, I’ll be teaching a class of about six children. Other than looking for a larger room to teach them in, I don’t really know where to start. The girls responded well to the structure of the lessons in the Primary manual. I don’t think the boys will as much, especially the one who seems to have ADD. By the same token, I don’t want Anna to feel overpowered, buried and ignored as the only girl.

Meet the new class:

Nikolai: About 10 years old. Anna’s older brother who possibly has ADD. It’s hard to keep him focused.

Stephen: Eight or nine years old. Doesn’t like to participate.

Benjamin: About 10 years old. Pretty good at understanding and participation but easily distracted by his new step-brother.

Alvin: Eight years old. Youngest boy in the class and Benjamin’s new step-brother. Bilingual with some reading difficulties. His wheelchair is one reason I need a bigger classroom. He also likes to scoot around in it so I need to do something about getting him to stay still.

John: About 10 years old. Son of one of my VT ladies. Well-behaved, thoughtful and always brings his scriptures… so far, the ideal Sunday School student.

So, Bloggernacle, please share with me your thoughts, tips and suggestions for herding boys in Sunday School. I do have a cattle prod on order. 😉

Edit:  Here’s a refresher on the girl’s info:

First is Anna, age 8.  She used to refuse to read even the shortest verse but recently she volunteered and read her way through a good chunk. She was doing well with the other girls in class but she doesn’t seem as happy with a class full of rowdy boys.

Lynette is 9 and the bossiest little thing you’ve ever seen.  She loves new ideas and projects and always volunteers to give a prayer.

Natalie is 11 and struggling with a number of challenges.  She seems quiet and sensitive when she’s on her own and understands gospel principles easily.